Friday, 19 February 2010

'Gosh, It's Like Fawlty Towers...'

Margo has had an Angioplasty 'procedure', in an attempt to get more oxygen to the ol' brain. She is home and recuperating nicely, but she looks old and small and clearly needs more care than she will admit. (YES, ninety-three year old heart patients need care! "I am NOT a heart patient!") Her loving family are trying to make things easy and non-stressful for her, which involves much whispered discussion, and some hilarious moments where we have to meet with the other elderly ladies in Margo's building to discuss things like "Where are the keys to the guest room, because Anna's Daughter needs them", and "No, not me, I'm Nan. Anna's in number 24", and "Today is Friday. Yes, and tomorrow is Saturday," and "Oh, you mean ANNA! From upstairs!"

This involves going upstairs, then going downstairs, then going upstairs, several of us accompanied by boisterous children and at every stop we are invited into tiny apartments en masse for tea by forgetful old dears with extremely neat and fragile furnishings.

It isn't that bad, actually. Although in some ways, it's worse. Our normal family tactic in times of stress is to laugh and be silly, but we are all sad and worried. Margo needs someone to remind her to take her pills, to eat three meals a day. She forgets what day of the week it is and looks at her labelled pill-box, lost. She forgets that you were just there yesterday, insists that she hasn't seen Charlotte in months and months. Margo is absolutely adamant that she doesn't need someone to come and help her out... but she gets lonely and wishes we weren't all so busy and could visit her more. When we do, though, she forgets that we have.

Sigh!

9 comments:

HalfAsstic.com said...

Damn, it sucks to get old! I find it quite funny that this little old lady's name is Margo, since my friend Lisa and I go to visit a friend of hers that has just recently been put in the nursing home and her name is Margo as well. She is having some dementia and not always handling it so well...

LceeL said...

She seems a dear - and you are a dear for being so close and so willing to help.

Rory said...

I hope that you are around, when I get to be old, cantankerous and forgetful. Wont be long now.........
heheheheh

Pappy.

aclare said...

What do you mean 'when', Dad? He he =P...

I was amazed though to hear that she sounded so fine on the phone when I spoke to her. And I suppose this insistence that she doesn't need anyone is encouraging by the fact that she's not going to give up yet. I suppose we will just have to pull together to make it work. I'm willing to come and help if you ever need me too, just say the word. At least she's got some assistance from her building, which is better than she had in her old place.

Nan Sheppard said...

Thanks, my sweet family!

Audubon Ron said...

Well wasn't that a pick me up. It really is sad on many levels. I really don't want that for myself but it isn't like we have a choice. That's why I took up smoking - for the kids. :) Many blessings to Margo.

Green Girl in Wisconsin said...

You are such a good person to do your best to take care of Margo--that's usually a thankless job, but even if she doesn't always remember your efforts, she does NOTICE.

chickenfootsouseforthesoul said...

May you never get old Pappy, cantankerous could be fun though!

Nan Sheppard said...

A Cantankerous Pappy? Could never happen!